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If you would talk to your daughter about safety, talk to your son about consent.
(I am not clear on the original source. If anyone knows where credit is due, please let me know!)
Infographic: We need a powerful movement to end violence against women & girls. From PreventConnect
Pubic Lice
Pubic lice is a parasitic infection of the genital region. It is a living organism that attaches to pubic hair and lives on the body. It is most commonly spread through close contact with an infected person, however it can also live for a very short time on damp towels and sheets and can be spread through sharing these items. Pubic lice is characterized by mild to severe itching in the genital area. It can be cured with an insecticide, which can be purchased without a prescription
Mulloscum Contagiosum
While mulloscum contagiosum is considered a sexually transmitted infection, it can also be transmitted during nonsexual, intimate contact. It is a derivation of the small pox virus and is identified and diagnosed by small pinkish white bumps on the genital region and thighs that resemble pimples. It does not need to be treated because it goes away on its own, but the bumps can be removed by burning or freezing.
Trichonomiasis
Trich is the most common vaginal (as opposed to cervical) STI in women. It is only diagnosed in women, though it can be carried in men as well. It is a parasitic infection caused by a single-cell protozoan. Common symptoms include a frothy green discharge, itching, and frequent urination. Trich is diagnosed after a practitioner examines the vaginal discharge under a microscope. It is easily treated with oral medication.
Gonorrhea
Gonorrhea is the ‘big brother’ of chlamydia and is also a distant relative of syphilis. It is a bacterial infection that is spread through contact infected bodily fluids. It can be transmitted through oral sex and can cause an infection in a person’s throat. The symptoms are similar to those of chlamydia and include unusual discharge, burning, and itching. Gonorrhea is easily treated with antibiotics, but if it goes untreated for very long periods of time it can cause serious problems such as PID in women and infertility in men.
Bacterial Vaginosis
Bacterial Vaginosis occurs when the intricate balance of bacteria in the vagina is disrupted. It may occur as a result of sexual activity when foreign bacteria is introduced to the vagina, but can also occur as a result of the use of deodorant soaps, bubble baths, douches, or anything else that changes the pH of the vagina. The symptoms include white discharge and a fishy vaginal odor. BV is diagnosed after a pelvic exam and can be easily treated with antibiotics.
The reason I chose Sinclair Sexsmith as one of my favorite figures is threefold:
First of all, it was through my avid devouring of Sinclair’s original erotica that really inspired me to question and push the boundaries of my own sexuality, and explore many things, including an asymmetric balance of power. The erotica that they write, as well as the collections that they edit, have inspired some intrigue in things that I had previously not considered.
Second, Sinclair Sexsmith has a deep knowledge of so many topics, and can eloquently and enthusiastically speak to a broad range of sexuality. First of all, Sinclair has a masculine-of-center identity, and lives a personal definition of butch identity. They are a top, and can speak to many BDSM practices, and is constantly exploring their boundaries with their partners, including an asymmetrical balance of power and impact play. In the Sugarbutch Chronicles, Sinclair’s blog, they boldly share deep thoughts about how difficult some explorations are. Opening up their relationship and sharing every raw difficulty and wonderful joy for anonymous readers to learn from is a wonderful skill that I appreciate very much.
And finally, meeting Sinclair (see below) and seeing them lecture and perform in person was pivotal in the development in my queer identity, and I began to have a deeper understanding of the identity and roles I wanted to possess, as well as what roles and identities I am attracted to.

HIV
HIV is a viral infection that can be transmitted through infected semen or vaginal fluid, blood, or breast milk. HIV occurs in several stages, and in the last stage, it presents as a disease that compromises the host person’s immune system and makes him or her susceptible to other infections. It is not that common in the college population, but HIV is so important that doctors recommend that every one that is sexually active get tested for HIV once a year.
Hepatitis B
Hepatitis B is a viral infection of the liver that can be transmitted through infected blood as well as infected bodily fluids such as semen or vaginal fluid. Symptoms are similar to flu symptoms and include fever, tiredness, nausea, and headaches. Hepatitis B also causes jaundice, which is a yellowing of the skin and eyes and a darkening color of the urine. It is usually vaccinated against in children.
This link takes you to a music video from the incredible sex-positive, LGBTQ-friendly band, Sex/Ed. This music video, Crimson Tide, is eclectic and fantastically weird! The song “No Glove No Love” is doing really well in Japan, and I would absolutely adore if everyone could pass them on!
Here’s the bio:
My sister (a student) and I (a former high school teacher, now librarian) are Sex/Ed, a band that raps about safe sex and sex positivity. We rap about why period sex can be cool, why condoms are necessary, what happens when you get tested and the news ain’t so great, how a little bondage can improve a bad mood, strap ons, romance novels, among other topics.
You can listen to the whole album here on bandcamp.
Syphillis
Syphilis is a bacterial infection that is not very common in the college population, though my rates have begun to increase in the past couple of years. The symptoms occur in stages, the first stage is the presence of a painless, round sore that can appear anywhere on the body. The second stage is a rash on the hands and feet. If it is not treated, it can go dormant for decades before causing heart and brain problems, blindness, and death in the late stage. The most famous syphilis victims include Christopher Columbus and Al Capone. Syphilis is tested for with a blood draw and easily treated with a shot of penicillin.
Chlamydia
Chlamydia is a bacterial infection that usually infects the urethra. It can be tested for with a urethral swab or a urine sample. Chlamydia is extremely common in the college population and should be tested for every year in sexually active people. Chlamydia is easily cured with antibiotics. If it goes untreated for a long period of time in women, it can cause pelvic inflammatory disease and infertility. In most people, chlamydia does not present symptoms, but when it does they include burning after urination, discharge, abdominal pain, and spotting after intercourse in women.
Herpes
Herpes a viral infection with two types. One type infects about 66% of sexually active adults and causes cold sores or fever blisters on the mouth or face. The other type infects the genital region and is present in about 22% of sexually active adults. Most people don’t know that they have herpes because usually there are not any symptoms. If the genital version does cause symptoms, they are most commonly swollen glands in the groin and blisters in the genital area. Herpes can be transmitted through oral-genital contact and it can be transmitted even if the host is not presenting any outward symptoms. Herpes is tested for with a blood test and though it cannot be completely eliminated from the body, the symptoms can be treated and controlled through daily suppressive medication.
HPV (Human Papilloma Virus)
HPV is a virus with over 100 strains. The majority of sexually active women will be infected with at least one strain in their lifetime, though most of the time the body’s own immune system will fight off the infection. Luckily, women can get vaccinated against 4 of the most harmful strains to prevent infection from these strains. Some of the most harmful strains can cause genital warts and cervical cancer. HPV is spread through skin to skin contact and can be transmitted even if the carrier does not have any symptoms. HPV is usually detected through an abnormal pap smear in women.
I have been doing some research on sex and disability, and thought I would share some of the links I have found. This will be useful for me in the future as a resource, and hopefully to others too.
Disability and Sex General Links
- Disability Dharma: What Including & Learning From Disability Can Teach (Everyone) About Sex
- How to Meet, Date and Have Sex When You’re Disabled
- Sexual Pleasure & the Disabled Adult
- Disability and Body Image
- Sex and Disability
- Good Sex Positions for Disabled Sex
- Let’s Get Physical
- Disability and Orgasm: Your Orgasmic Potential
- Practical Sex Tips for Disabled People
- No Big Deal: Sex & Disability
- Self-Advocates Speak Up About Sex
- Sexuality and Disability Myths and Facts
- Disabled and No Sexual Pleasure
- Sex, Disability and the DSP: Ethically Supporting Sexual Choices
- Sex and Disability: Impacts of Disability on Sex
- Sexual Expression for Adults with Disabilities: The Role of Guardianship
- Disability and Sexual Activity: The Mechanics of it All
- Contraception for People with Disabilities
- Disabled? Discovering Your Sexual Self
- Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual
- Talking About Sensitive Topics
- Personal Relationships and People with Physical Disabilities
- Physical Problems and Female Sexual Dysfunction
- Talking about Disability on a Date
- Lovers with Disabilities Become Liberated with Tantric Sex
- My Partner is Scared to Try
- Getting Assistance: Having Sex and Using Your Sex Toy
- Physical Disability and Sexual Intercourse
- A Sexuality Policy That Truly Supports People with Disabilities
- Two Lovers With Disabilities Need Help
- How to Meet, Date and “Do It” When You’re Disabled
- Sex and Disability Webliography
- Eli Clare - Challenging Our Differences
Sex, Disability and Young People- Sex Education for Physically Disabled Teenagers
- Growing Up: A teachers’s guide to Sex and Relationships Education for Young People with Physical Disabilities
- Sex and Your Child with a Disability
- Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
- Sexuality Education for Children and Adolescents with Developmental Disabilities
- Sexuality and Persons with Disabilities
- Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know
- Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents
Medications and Sex- Sexual Side Effects of Medications: How prescription and OTC medications can have sexual side effects
Effects of Medications on Female Sexual Response- Researching Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- How To Manage Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- Physical Sexual Side Effects of Medications
Disability and Sex Toys- Top 10 Ideas on Adapting Sex Toys
- Making Sex Toys Accessible
- Sex Toys and Disability
- Disability and Sex Toys
- Research Before Adapting Sex Toys
- Accessible Sex Toys
- Adapting Toys for Decreased Sensation
- Adapting Toys for Increased Sensation
- Fatigue and Sex Toys
- Adapting Toys for Mobility and Motor Control
- Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
- Adapting Sex Toys for Privacy
- Sex Toy Accessibility Checklist
- Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue
- Sex Toys and Allergies
Fatigue and Sex- Sex and Fatigue: How Do You Stay Sexual When You Have No Energy for Sex?
- Sex and Fatigue
- Your Sex Drive With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
- Fatigue and Sex Toys
- Sex, Fatigue and Depression
- Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue
Multiple Sclerosis and Sex- Multiple Sclerosis & Sex
- My husband has MS and doesn’t like sex anymore. Why?
- My wife has MS and doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Why not and what can I do?
- Multiple Sclerosis and Sexual Problems
- Top 10 Sex Tips for Men with Multiple Sclerosis
- Sex and Multiple Sclerosis
Arthritis and Sex- Love, Sex and Arthritis
- Sex and Arthritis
Spinal Cord Injury and Sex- The ABCs of Sex After Spinal Cord Injury
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Orgasm
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Fertility, Childbirth and Contraception
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Sexual Behaviour and Activity
- Best Sex Positions for Spinal Cord Injured Women
- User’s Guide to the Paralyzed Penis: Sex after Spinal Cord Injury
- Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Erections
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Ejaculation, Orgasm and Coitus
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Sexual Drive and Activity
- Intercourse & Pleasure With a Spinal Cord Injury
- Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Men with SCI
- Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Women with SCI
Cancer and Sex- Cancer and Sex: How Cancer Affects Your Sex Life
- Intimacy and Sexuality for cancer patients and their partners
Diabetes and Sex- Sex and Diabetes
- Diabetes and Sex: Does It Have to Doom Your Sex Life?
- Sexuality and Diabetes
- Erectile Dysfunction Treatments for Patients with Diabetes
Fibromyalgia and Sex- Fibromyalgia and Your Sex Life
Parkinson’s Disease and Sex- Parkinson’s Disease and Your Sex Drive
- Parkinson’s Disease and Sex
ALS / Lou Gehrig’s Disease and Sex- ALS & Your Sex Life
Learning Disabilities and Sex- Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
- Sex and Learning Disabilities
- Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know
Ostomy and Sex- Sex and the Person with an Ostomy
Continence and Sex- Continence and Sex
Cystic Fibrosis and Sex- Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents
- Sexuality, Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adults
Back Pain and Sex- Sex Tips for Back Pain Sufferers
- Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back
Augmentative and Alternative Communication and Sex- Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who Use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
- Sexual Health Education for AAC Users - Speak Up Findings
- Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
- Sexual Health: Knowledge and Skills for People who Use AAC
- Sexual Health Issues for People who Use AAC
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I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/
Thanks everyone!
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