May 2012
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Sex-Positive Fundamentals
Sex-positive perspectives asserts that:
- Consensual sex is the opposite of rape. As rape is a negative force both personally and in society, sex can be a positive force in both personal development and in society at large.
- Communication, consent and pleasure are necessary components of sexual health.
- Sexual health includes engaging in sexual acts that are safe, sane and consensual.
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“I believe that sex-positive feminism is about the belief that sex can be...”
– Clarisse Thorn
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Hookups are sadly cunnilingus free
While looking at college dating and sexual behavior, it is easy to see that hook-ups are a major form of intimacy and dating between people. There have been studies about how hook-ups relate to alcohol, sexual assault, sexually transmitted infections, and sexual pleasure. Most recently, a study is looking at oral sex satisfaction among college age women. The results are in:
In study recently...
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Have you heard of the Center for Sex and Culture? →
notablankbook:
They’re an organization in San Francisco whose mission is “to provide judgment-free education, cultural events, a library/media archive, and other resources to audiences across the sexual and gender spectrum; and to research and disseminate factual information, framing and…
April 2012
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Other ace blogs.
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SexPositive has a new about section! →
I finally got around to writing an About SexPositive page! Check it out!
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Do Vaginal Orgasms Affect Your Walk?
A study published in 2008 by Université Catholique de Louvain in Louvain-la-Neuve, Belgium shows findings that women who have had a vaginal orgasm, as compared to women who have not, or only have clitoral orgasms, show actual difference in their gaits. From the conclusion of the study:
The discerning observer may infer women’s experience of vaginal orgasm from a gait that comprises...
Anonymous asked: how do you become a sexual health educator?
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Sex Negativity Results! →
fuckyeahsexeducation:
As to people’s suggestions for what would reduce sex negativity:
good education
undoing the brainwashing
acceptance
surrounding yourself with sex positive people and joining the movement
positive thinking and safe sex education
talking with significant others or someone else
spending more time with partners exploring each other’s bodies
being told it’s okay
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10 Facts About Sexual Health
1. The teen birth rate is down.
2. The abortion rate is down.
3. Access to family planning improves maternal and child health.
4. Sex education increases knowledge and decreases risks.
5. Condoms work.
6. Contraception works.
7. Emergency Contraception (Plan B-One Step) works by preventing pregnancy. It does not cause an abortion.
8. Access to a full range of contraceptives decreases the risks of...
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Say Please Virtual Blog Tour
Sinclair Sexsmith recently released an incredible anthology of erotica. Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica is ready to fulfill your deepest desires for discipline and surrender, domination and submission, and the heightened sensations of BDSM play. Order your copy from Amazon here, and keep up with the Say Please blog.
Reading this anthology is thrilling, and each story has different flavors to...
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My Take Back the Night Rally speech
I gave this speech at the Northwestern University Take Back the Night event in 2011 at the rally and speak out. Take Back the Night was one of my favorite activities at Northwestern, and I was honored to be chosen as the survivor speaker.
As a recent Northwestern graduate, I can confidently say that my experiences here have permanently changed my life. I’ve made friends that will endure my...
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Feminism and Female Submission by The Pleasure...
Check out my post on the Northwestern Sex Week Blog! Hurray!
nusexweekcontributer:
Feminism and Female Submission by The Pleasure Chest
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Post by a former College Feminist, and founder of the SexPositive blog, Lyzanne:
As a feminist and sexual assault survivor, BDSM play seemed out of my realm. I didn’t want to be triggered, and I wasn’t sure how I could exactly put myself...
Anonymous asked: There is a clothing store in the mall in my town centre and it's massive window ad is a woman in sexy underwear posing on a chair. She isn't overweight but she is larger than 'average' (at least for here in europe) and the picture reads 'Fitted for real women'. What are your thoughts on the whole 'real woman' thing?
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“To put that 800Gbps figure into perspective, the internet only handles around...”
– Extremetech.com
the internet really is for porn!
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“Not every sexual experience, whether paid or not, has to be perfectly erotic....”
– Audacia Ray, Why the Sex Positive Movement is Bad for Sex Worker’s Rights.
An interesting truth that is overlooked by overly zealous sex positive feminists, and the article is definitely worth the time to check out Audacia’s point!
March 2012
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Spotlight on: SHEER Collective
From their website:
Sexuality Health Education to End Rape (SHEER) is a survivor-centered, sex-positive, pro-consent collective formed to prevent sexual assault, abuse, harassment and victim blaming and to address myths about rape by promoting an affirmative consent standard as the cornerstone of healthy sexual interactions. An affirmative consent standard calls for enthusiastic consent that is...
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SexPositive ideal sex education
I recently responded to a question about my ideal sex-positive sex education curriculum, and as someone pointed out, questions aren’t really re-blog friendly. I also forgot to include any information about LGBT individuals (major oversight, my apologies). So here it is again. Thank you all for your positive responses!
My ideal sex-education curriculum would start young, focusing on personal...
Anonymous asked: What would your ideal sex-education curriculum look like?
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Anonymous asked: what would you say to someone who nearly had an incestuous experience when they were young and spent the rest of their lives doing self harm, and suffering in regret and self disgust
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“I used to think masturbation was not really sex because it only involved me....”
– Betty Dodson
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Having the sexual history talk with your partner
Here are five reasons (just some of many) why it’s often difficult to initiate a sexual history conversation prior to having sex or to insist on using condoms. Opening the communication with your partner, and working past these five steps will make your sex safer and more satisfying.
High Hopes: ”If you want to engage in a conversation about sex, you’re presuming the person wants to have sex...
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Sex Positive Parenting: Kids are Masturbating
Human sexuality is an integral part of our whole lives, and does not begin just at puberty. Many children experience their sexuality as early as from infancy, when they learn that putting pressure or directly stimulating their genital regions feels good. Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of childhood.
Its been shown that children begin masturbating very early on, and how parents react to...
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“One common justification I hear from people who like to hook up is that,...”
– Miriam Mogilevsky. “Hookup Culture Needs to Change for Safety and Fun” from the Daily Northwestern.
February 2012
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“When I submit, I do it from a place of strength. I decide whether my partner is...”
– Feminist Sex Submissive? How I Reconcile My Politics With My Sex Life | Sex & Relationships | AlterNet (via a-blog-called-everything)
A warning about the "campaign group" called Sex... →
slut-shaming:
A WARNING... There is a “campaign group” called RINJ (Rape Is No Joke), otherwise known as SAINJ (Sex Assault Is No Joke) who started up with the objective of removing rape “joke” pages from Facebook. Many people joined their cause, “liking” their page, because they too wanted to see these rape pages removed. Unfortunately, it appears that this group had an ulterior motive. Many...
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Lustability Website: Sexual Compatibility →
I just played around with this website, taking the quiz, and making my partner take the quiz as well. We read an in depth analysis of our sexual compatibility, and it was pretty accurate and fun to read! If you have time, and someone you’d like to compare answers to (they have to consent to take the quiz), take a few minutes to play!
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“Generally, when someone clearly gets my gender identity and still wants to...”
– Sinclair Sexsmith. She likes my butch breasts and I don’t.
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Can Perpetrators of Relationship Abuse Be...
As a pop culture enthusiast, as well as being a staunch feminist and advocate for survivors of domestic, sexual and relationship abuse, I’ve been following the whole Rihanna/Chris Brown situation (mess) ever since 2009, when the physical attack on Rihanna was exposed to the media.
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about how someone who has been a perpetrator of abuse needs to...
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Just to reiterate: you can be sex-aversive AND...
lizziegoneastray:
Why is this? Because sex-positivity is not intended to be about personally wanting to have sex; it’s about supporting the right of all people of all genders to have as much or as little sex as they want without being judged by arbitrary standards of “purity” or “experience.” It’s about believing that other people’s bodies, and the ways in which they do or do not choose to...
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A huge announcement from GayWrites →
Hey guys, I’m passing this message along for my amazing and talented friend. She runs GayWrites all by herself, she’s turning it into a non-for-profit organization AND she goes to school full-time. Consider buying a sticker or two (I just did! Painless!) or helping pass this message around. Much love!
gaywrites:
Hi, friends:
I’ve been hinting at big news for GayWrites for a couple...
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S.O.S. (Safe Oral Sex)
In my high school health class, the unit on sexually transmitted infections (STIs) was dreaded and awkward. Our health teacher put up a slide show of male and female genitalia that was infected with different STIs, and ended the lecture with a discussion on safe-sex barrier methods, such as the male and female condom.
Do youemember hearing things like “Put a condom on for every sex act”...
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LOVE... breathing after rape
Rape Victim Advocates is partnering with UnSilenced Woman Press to create a chapbook, LOVE…breathing after rape, edited by Veronica Precious Bohanan that addresses life after rape by highlighting the stories of survivors who actively choose to love, heal and thrive. We are seeking survival accounts about:
How you grew to love yourself and others
How you became sex-positive and a...
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Safer Sex and Contraception for Trans* Guys
artoftransliness:
A lot of us are less than well-informed about how to have safe sex and prevent pregnancy as trans* guys, partially because there isn’t a lot of information out there specifically for us.
-For oral sex involving vulvas (vulvae?), a good way to reduce the chance of STI transmission is to use dental dams. These can be purchased at sex shops and similar locations or created using...