February 2012
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Safer Sex and Contraception for Trans* Guys
artoftransliness:
A lot of us are less than well-informed about how to have safe sex and prevent pregnancy as trans* guys, partially because there isn’t a lot of information out there specifically for us.
-For oral sex involving vulvas (vulvae?), a good way to reduce the chance of STI transmission is to use dental dams. These can be purchased at sex shops and similar locations or created using...
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“As I’ve come out over the years about different things, I’ve come to understand...”
– Jiz Lee — “How to Come Out Like A Porn Star”.
Jiz wrote this in terms of coming out as a porn star, being kinky, queer and having a trans* identity, but this can resonate to those who come out about anything. Also, Jiz Lee is awesome.
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10 reasons why I shouldn’t have had sex, but did...
Wilhemina Wang from heartbreaknympho.com has an honest collection of ten reasons she has had sex when she shouldn’t have. The list is specific to her experiences, but this is a very comparable list that people can relate to.
See the whole article here
Because I was in love with the other person. – And I either thought sex would help make them fall in love with me (worst idea ever), or that it...
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Transphobia Definition
Transphobia is a set of negative attitudes toward, fear and hatred of transgender and gender non-conforming people. This, like homophobia can be thought of as the prejudice that many cisgender (non-transgender) people hold toward transgender and gender non-conforming people.
This article highlights different types of transphobic discrimination that legislation is beginning to target, including...
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January 2012
57 posts
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Are You in Chicago? Let's Hang Out!
The Sex Positive Film Series at the Jane Addams Hull House is hosting a free Valentine’s Day screening of The Happy Hooker: Portrait of a Sexual Revolutionary. This should be a great sex positive evening for you to bring a honey or a friend to. Here’s the details…
The popular Sex Positive Documentary Film Series is holding a free screening of The Happy Hooker: Portrait of a Sexual Revolutionary...
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“In many ways, the kink scene seems light-years ahead of other sexual communities...”
– Tracy Clarke-Flory. When Safe Words are Ignored.
Interesting article on consent in the BDSM community, and the fear of submissives to use safe words when their boundaries are crossed, and the ways in which others in the community dismiss this sexual assault.
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rosemedley asked: Oh wow, I think I'm in love! I've only recently started to become active in ideas and discussions of sexuality, sexism, gender stereotyping, etc. and I have to say that I'm so happy to have found this blog! It's so refreshing to see a young adult like myself (I'm 18) willing and WANTING to discuss these issues. Most of my friends and such become nervous and flippant when I...
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“Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”....”
– via avid
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Sexual Surrogates
When I tell people that I want to become a sex therapist, the reactions are quite varied. I’ve been asked by several people outright if I’m going to have sex with people as a part of their therapy. As outrageous and mythical as that sounds, that profession does exist, and goes by the name of Sexual Surrogates.
Sexual surrogacy is a practice that goes hand-in-hand with sex therapy. A...
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“Using data from 3 studies of men and women engaging in masturbation or...”
– “The post-orgasmic prolactin increase following intercourse is greater than following masturbation and suggests greater satiety.” from Biol Psychol. 2006 Mar;71(3):312-5. Epub 2005 Aug 10.
**I know this relates specifically to penile-vaginal intercourse, but this is still an...
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Almost Half of Women Have Sexual Dysfunction?
Previous surveys have reported similar estimates of female sexual dysfunction, including low desire and problems with orgasm. The most widely quoted figure, from the U.S. National Health and Social Life Survey, is 43 percent. — US News.
The “scientific” discussion that 43% of women are experiencing sexual dysfunction upsets me. If such a large portion of women are...
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Progressive Pleasure Club
The Progressive Pleasure Club is a network of independent sex shops dedicated to helping people make informed decisions about sexuality products. They are committed to the promotion of accurate and honest pleasure-based sexuality education, and to offering products that meet the highest standards of safety.
The Rubber Rose, San Diego, CA
https://therubberrose.com/store/
Early to Bed, Chicago,...
“Conception rates reach their annual peak in December, with 9 percent of all U.S....”
– It’s High Time for Conception: Studies Show Peak Times, Weather for Sex. The Daily Beast.
See other interesting facts about the timing of conception and sex!
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Yoga Enhances Our Sex Lives
A well written account, complete with scientific studies shows us how doing specific kinds of yoga benefit our sex lives. And no, it’s not the “increasing flexibility to get into that weird Cosmo position” that you probably thought of.
Find it here. And for those that want the abbreviated version:
1. Tantra Yoga Promotes Sexual Vitality
Mula bandha improves arousal, prostate...
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Kink & Fetish Terms: Cuckold
Cuckold (n): A person who gains sexual pleasure in the knowledge that his/her partner has made love, or is making love to other people. Cuckolds are usually submissive, and might ‘enjoy’ sexual humiliation.
This term has been around since the 13th century, referring to the cuckoo bird, as some varieties of the birds laid their eggs in other birds’ nests. Currently a cuckold...
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“I am a “sex-positive” Black woman, and I believe that the sexual...”
– The Sex-Positive Black Woman by Arielle Loren
A wonderful piece on the sex positivity movement, and how it can be embraced by all.