In many ways, the kink scene seems light-years ahead of other sexual communities when it comes to issues of consent. They have checklists that tirelessly detail personal limits and safe words meant to bring things to a screeching halt if ever someone’s boundaries are crossed. That’s theory — just like “no” means “no” for non-kinksters — but it’s not always so in practice.
Tracy Clarke-Flory. When Safe Words are Ignored.
Interesting article on consent in the BDSM community, and the fear of submissives to use safe words when their boundaries are crossed, and the ways in which others in the community dismiss this sexual assault.